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Calm Your Nerves By Embracing Uncertainty as a Singer

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“Embrace the unknown, and the answer will be revealed.” - Dr Dolittle


Embrace Uncertainty as a Singer

Singing is difficult not because you are not talented.

It is difficult because your instrument is on the inside of your body. You cannot see or touch it. And you do not hear it accurately either.

Singing is a fine motor skill that takes a long time to develop. There are many things involved including brain-body-voice connection that are confusing for many people.

I believe the naturally talented singers are blessed with these skills and body-mind connection when they were born. That is one of the reasons why they can sing well without much training.

But for the majority of people, this is not the case.

The good news is: these skills can be learnt and developed.

You can get better at singing if you have proper training and guidance.

As I mentioned, singing is a fine motor skill that takes a long time to develop.

It is so much more enjoyable when you look at vocal training as a journey, instead of a destination.

If you are a beginner, I want you to let go of control.

Stop trying to “control” your voice.
Stop trying to make it sound perfect.
Stop trying so hard.

Trying to control your sound will make you anxious, frustrated and even angry.

This is because you do not know what you are doing wrong and how to fix it.

The first step of learning anything is confusion.

A process called “elaborative encoding” happens when your brain learns a new skill.

Your brain makes new neural networks for the new skill. You will be clumsy and confused until the neural networks are well-developed.

What this means is you need to let it happen in its own time.

Put in the time and effort to practice singing. Trust the process. Enjoy the journey.

The results will come when your voice is ready.


Singing is an Expression of Who You are


Singing is not a competition.

It is an expression of who you are.

Your voice is connected deeply to your psyche.

Rush the process and anxiety will occur.

Anxiety is the enemy of progress.

Trust the process, be patient and you will find your voice before you know it.


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